In which Thursday talks about stuff in his usual vague terminology.
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Wednesday
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Oh! This is so interesting. I definitely agree with the idea that tailoring your communication is different than presenting a false connection. The first one, presenting yourself in a way other people can connect with, lets them see you more clearly, whereas "inventing" parts of your personality to make them like you collapses on itself, if likeage is build on connection.
But I wonder, now... about personality and character. Maybe likeage (I can't think of another word) is not just built on how they connect with your personality, but what they think of your character. In neither case should you make up part of yourself that isn't there, but tailoring your personality, and working to build the character you want to have, are both good ways of living. I do think, though, that you shouldn't consciously alter your personality to fit the other person, or else you could miss out on finding other places that you could connect, as well as feeling forced. Note that you means me, or anybody; I'm not giving you advice.
Maybe the reason acting as you should seems unlike yourself is because personality influences character?
I may have missed the distinction between being who you want to and who you should be. Regardless, I very much enjoyed watching and thinking about this. =)
I realized at the end of the video, "Hey! He's wearing my shirt!" This was ironic, since the whole video I had been thinking about how similar we are as individuals, or at least how certain facets of our personality are similar (how much stock we put in being honest, our tendency to question authority, etc).
I think what you were getting at is that we are not the greatest people in the world, and so often being "ourselves" (meaning how we are now as opposed to who we ought to be) is not always best. So there are two solutions to that problem: 1. Change who we are. 2. Pretend to change who we are. The first one is way harder but is really the only way to go.
And as for the importance of being true to one's personality... we should not try to pretend that our personalities are different from what they actually are, but there are parts of our personalities that we can improve or correct.
For example, a part of my personality is to want to be open and honest with everyone, and to have relationships with real people. It's good in the sense that I connect with people on a real and personal level, but the problem is that sometimes I can be too open when it's inappropriate, or I can say things at the wrong times and not wait for the right time to bring it up.
So, our personalities can change, but we shouldn't pretend that they have if they haven't. Something like that.
A Year Of Questions is a project begun on March 22, 2010, by seven teens who want to be better at asking questions and articulating answers. This blog exists to make it easier to discuss these questions (because a 500 character limit on YouTube comments is rather limiting). Enjoy!
2 comments:
Oh! This is so interesting. I definitely agree with the idea that tailoring your communication is different than presenting a false connection. The first one, presenting yourself in a way other people can connect with, lets them see you more clearly, whereas "inventing" parts of your personality to make them like you collapses on itself, if likeage is build on connection.
But I wonder, now... about personality and character. Maybe likeage (I can't think of another word) is not just built on how they connect with your personality, but what they think of your character. In neither case should you make up part of yourself that isn't there, but tailoring your personality, and working to build the character you want to have, are both good ways of living. I do think, though, that you shouldn't consciously alter your personality to fit the other person, or else you could miss out on finding other places that you could connect, as well as feeling forced. Note that you means me, or anybody; I'm not giving you advice.
Maybe the reason acting as you should seems unlike yourself is because personality influences character?
I may have missed the distinction between being who you want to and who you should be. Regardless, I very much enjoyed watching and thinking about this. =)
I realized at the end of the video, "Hey! He's wearing my shirt!" This was ironic, since the whole video I had been thinking about how similar we are as individuals, or at least how certain facets of our personality are similar (how much stock we put in being honest, our tendency to question authority, etc).
I think what you were getting at is that we are not the greatest people in the world, and so often being "ourselves" (meaning how we are now as opposed to who we ought to be) is not always best. So there are two solutions to that problem: 1. Change who we are. 2. Pretend to change who we are. The first one is way harder but is really the only way to go.
And as for the importance of being true to one's personality... we should not try to pretend that our personalities are different from what they actually are, but there are parts of our personalities that we can improve or correct.
For example, a part of my personality is to want to be open and honest with everyone, and to have relationships with real people. It's good in the sense that I connect with people on a real and personal level, but the problem is that sometimes I can be too open when it's inappropriate, or I can say things at the wrong times and not wait for the right time to bring it up.
So, our personalities can change, but we shouldn't pretend that they have if they haven't. Something like that.
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